We all flirt over the internet. With the advent of chatrooms, social media and more and more growing apps for dating, things have become much easier for all of us shy guys. Now, from the comfort of your home (online), get in touch with that classmate who likes you from the first high school to the second high school, the guy you worked together two years ago or even with her sexy girlfriend yours.
I do not know, they are tastes.
The internet has opened the way, which means that if you wish, you can bypass the level you expect to find information from your friends about the man you are interested in and make you direct your move. Sometimes, however, some people overdo it or go beyond the limits or to put it more correctly, they do not know how to behave. The fact that you are not face to face with the person who interests you does not mean that there are no rules of behavior.
So there are some of those who I think are quite basic for those who are online.
If he does not answer the first three times you speak to him / her, I will go below.
You made the object of your desire add and within a few hours it accepted you. If you ask me, this is a good first sign though, it alone means absolutely nothing. For example, I accept almost all friendship requests that come to me. It does not mean that I want to sleep with those who add me. Anyway. After he accepts you, you send the first message that says, "Hello, what are you doing?", About two to three hours pass and you do not receive a response. You may have started one of the miserable video games you play online but in the back of your mind, the chat window you opened last is playing and which you have not yet closed with the hope that when you return, you will see it flashing. Failure. You decide after three hours, to send a second attack to cover the case that he has seen it but forgot to answer (how loser does it play to be?). So you write, "Your image is nice, are you from Glyfada?".
The days go by and you have not yet received an answer. I will tell you very simply, never return to this profile again, imagine it as a field full of mines. What makes you believe that he will answer you the hundredth time you send the word, "good evening"? Most likely, he will show your messages to his / her friends and everyone will laugh at your face. Go ahead, find someone who will appreciate you, in the end and answer you the hundredth time, what is the point? You will be the pet of the case.
Do not start the conversation unilaterally
Απέφυγε τα hi και τα hello, γράψε κάτι όμορφο που θα κεντρίσει το ενδιαφέρον του ανθρώπου που σου αρέσει. Εντάξει, δεν σου λέω να γράψεις και ποίηση αλλά τι απάντηση περιμένεις να πάρεις σε ένα hello; Πέρνα κατευθείαν σε αυτό που θα έλεγες στον άλλον αφού σου απαντούσε. Είμαστε στην εποχή του Internet, αν θέλεις να λες καλημέρα, πήγαινε στο περίπτερο. Βέβαια, θα σου δώσω ένα δίκιο σε αυτό. Αν ο άλλος πραγματικά ενδιαφέρεται να σε γνωρίσει, θα σου απαντήσει ακόμη και αν του στείλεις μια σέλφι αγκαλιά με ένα ξεραμένο σκατό. Όμως, γιατί να μην του τραβήξεις τη προσοχή με έναν πιο cool τρόπο;
Do not write a plod
I do not think there is any more lame thing than saying, via the internet, to another how nice eyes it is or how much you like it. Obviously you like it, it's three in the morning, tomorrow you have to wake up at seven to go to work, and you sit and chop like a madman. Do not be stupid, that's just to say close. To type them on a screen is like complimenting the pixels of your photos. What do not you understand;
Asking, in fact, invalid things leads with mathematical precision to failure
I understand you may have different kinds of tastes and cuffs. But adding addicted girls and asking them to buy their true story is somewhat inconvenient. I'm sure somewhere in cyberspace there will be a place where you can find what you are looking for. Definitely this is not a random facebook profile.
Learn when to leave a chat
Many times I have been in online chats with girls I was interested in where, at one point or another, I felt like I was pulling a boat. Whatever I wrote, even the craziest search, I got a funny emoticon or a plain "ha" as a response. Also, when I changed tactics and asked questions to push her and get a dialogue going, the answers she gave me were one word and bored. Imagine the conversation as one huge balloon, which you inflate with great effort and you have to stop blowing at the right moment. Just that. Learn to walk away when you have to, otherwise you're flirting with the possibility of being called boring and losing the game.
Listen, how do you have to do some jobs that should not be left behind or that some friends have come to get you to go out and unplug it. It does not matter if you are actually home, with your backpack and you eat cheetos wiping your hands in the shirt to write. The point is to look like you have life.
Better to chew than to key in
Κοινώς, μην λες πράγματα που δεν μπορείς να κάνεις. Το να υποστηρίζεις πως γουστάρεις να κάνεις ελεύθερη πτώση με αλεξίπτωτο, ενώ στην πραγματικότητα, κατουριέσαι και μόνο στην ιδέα του να μπαίνεις σε airplane, μπορεί να σου γυρίσει μπούμερανγκ. Να είσαι ο εαυτός σου. Στην τελική, αν δεν ταιριάζετε, γιατί να το κουράσεις με ψέματα; Βρες κάποιον που να είναι πιο κοντά στην ιδιοσυγκρασία σου.
Remember that the people you come into contact with are in the real world and have feelings
The fact that you write them down and don't tell them to someone close doesn't give you that right to say that your leg is down. Cursing a girl or a guy because he doesn't like you or because you don't like what he wears is not very logical. I have even seen cases where even hate groups have been created against people just because they didn't respond to the flirting of the administrator. I don't think I need to comment on how sick this is, I'll just state what I think is the most basic rule. Respect those you associate with and treat them as you would want to be treated.
Antonis Konstandaras VICE
